The "line of narrative stating in effect:" are my words.
Vitale lays out the assertion. The words are my synthesis.
Anne, We ordered "Gendered Self" from Amazon. Your site is nicely organized, accessible, well laid-out. Nice to have an abstract of each chapter -- as an academic I appreciate that. I was particularly struck by your line of narrative stating in effect: The trans experience must resolve the incessant dilemma of not feeling "gender appropriate" and thereby move toward the integration of a sense of self that lies somewhere between the "hetero-normative dyad" -- not "male" nor "female" but rather ontologically and existentially unique. Briefly -- I was raped at 9 yrs old by a slightly older (4 yrs) uncle, and again in the US Army. I was aware of gender differences and inclined toward "cross gender identity" as a pre-teen. The sexual abuse taught me that men and male sexuality are aggressive, intrusive, typically unwanted by cis-women, etc. etc. The identity with which I feel alien is that of the male sexual initiator/aggressor. I'm not so much concerned with "passing" as female, but rather ensconced in the deconstruction of gender cues, attributes. I push hard on non-binary. Gratefully the Veterans Admin finds me 100% service connected for PTSD (sex abuse trauma), and Gender Dysphoria (DSM5) -- the recent VA hospital stay validated my presentation/identity by assigning me to a private room rather than a ward with men. Ph.D. in English/linguistics, concentration in post-structuralist critical theory, emphasis in gender theory per Judith Butler, Anne Fausto-Sterling. My current view is that the normative dyad of gender presentation oppresses both sexes. I no more aspire to lipstick and heels than I do to jock-straps and growing a beard. "Smoke, mirrors, and keep them on their sexist toes!" Ambiguously, Allison